Latter Day Saints dating
standards aim to be only with other people who have the same high standards and
only in morally clean and proper places where the young people can be proud to
be seen. LDS dating is for the purpose of congregating together with other
people under circumstances which provide assistance in finding and growing
friendships. It also helps you to become knowledgeable about characteristics
and personal qualities of other people. LDS dating allows the young people to
have fun in groups so that they will have a wider choice of serious partners in
the future. In this way, they will have a more realistic idea of what they
should look for in a marriage companion intended for all eternity.
LDS dating should begin too young and should occur too often, particularly not on school nights. Dating should not be an expensive endeavor. LDS dating should consist of activities that are both wholesome and fun. Activities which are good and helpful or useful are even more appropriate. Activities should be in accordance with the ideals of parents, young people and God.
LDS dating generally should occur in chaperoned groups with appropriate attire, and conducted prayerfully, wisely, modestly, courteously and cheerfully. LDS parents believe in being informed about where the young people are, with whom, what they are doing and when they expect to be home.
For young men who are on a
mission for LDS, dating is disallowed. There strict prohibitions against
flirting, touching, close proximity, straying from the company of the fellow
missionary and improper thoughts. Serious dating is discouraged prior to the
time young LDS men go on their mission at age 19, although most return actively
date,and marry within 1-2 years after the mission. Of course, by having many of
the young men strictly regulated during the period when their non-Mormon peers
are most active sexually, the Church forestalls quite a number of the typical
promiscuity of the age group. For those young men who follow a mission service
with attendance at the LDS university where the find the chaste young women of
their own faith waiting, it's not surprising that so many marriages happen soon
after return. LDS young women do not typically go on anything similar to a
mission but often attend BYU after completing high school
LDS young people are usually more creative in the ways they choose to date in most instances. They focus more on fun activities and on activities which will help them to learn about each other. Group activities, many of which may seem somewhat corny to others are enjoyed as wholesome. They prefer these type of activities to attending movie dates. Movies are viewed as not being helpful in getting to know the date very well. Since many of today's movies would not meet the standards of wholesomeness and chastity, they are seldom used as a basis for a Latter Days Saints dating evening.